Dearest Reader,
Recently I’ve had a number of people approach me with inquiries on how they can begin their doula journey. Like anything else in life, there are multiple ways to achieve this goal, however for the purposes of this post I will outline the more mainstream approach.
Step 1: Decide why you want to become A Doula, and if it’s the right fit for you.
Without meaning to sound discouraging, I strongly recommend that the work a doula does gets considered from all angles. If you’re considering becoming a birth doula, realize that your commitment to your clients inherently means living a life on call, with the potential to miss appointments, birthdays, special occasions, and sleep.
If you have little ones, prepare yourself and your family for this adjustment by explaining that you may have to drop off the kids at their sitter at the drop of a dime, and make sure that you have a back-up sitter , and a back-up for your back-up.
If you are married (or similar), make sure your spouse is completely on board with the lifestyle you are adopting, as it will affect the entire family to some extent. Will your partner be okay or even available to assume your responsibilities in your stead? Make peace with the idea that there will be nights where you do not kiss your loved ones goodnight, or days where you won’t see them at all.
Understand that there will be long hours involved when you are with your clients during their labor, and count yourself lucky if you got a decent nights sleep beforehand. Remember that your clients birth is THEIRS, and respect the choices they make- an idea that can be incredibly difficult to follow at times.
Lastly keep in mind that this is amazing, uplifting work. We are blessed with the opportunity to guide and watch as women and men make the sacred transition into parenthood. We see the first moments of countless lives being born, and offer support to moms and dads every step of the way. When you finally see those tiny hands and curious eyes peek out at the new world, everything else falls away. Every.single.time.
I made it!!
If postpartum doula care is what lights your fire, there is still a time commitment to consider, albeit less intense than that of a birth doula. Your main role takes place after the birth, where you assist parents in establishing their day-to-day routines with baby, and offer advice and guidance on issues such as feeding, diapering, and sleeping. Are you comfortable washing laundry to give mom a break, or preparing light meals? Do you feel comfortable around pets, and unfamiliar places? Postpartum doula care usually takes place at the clients home, so making sure you feel comfortable traveling to and fro is definitely something to consider.
Decide what your availability will be, specifically if you would be willing to work overnight or on weekends, as those can be times that are most stressful for new parents. Like the work of a birth doula, the benefits in this line of work are amazing. As a postpartum doula you are essentially trying to work yourself out of a job with every client! You get a front row seat to watch as parents step into their roles as caregivers, nurturing and nourishing their little ones with many of the skills you have taught them. Seeing that transformation, and the parental bond that accompanies it, is truly rewarding.
There are several other subsets of doula care offered by many compassionate men and women. As a doula, you can specialize in working with families who are expecting a loss, or who have recently experienced a loss (Miscarriage /loss doula), families who are seeking to expand their families via adoption, and mothers who are choosing to put babies up for adoption (Adoption doula). Another consideration would be to become what is known as a “Full Spectrum doula”, a doula who offers support through birth, adoption, surrogacy, abortion, gender transition, foster care, etc. The list goes on and on, and as a doula you have the option to be as specialized as you like. Take the time to consider what you are passionate about in birth work and consider integrating it into your services.
Alright, so you’ve thought long and hard on what it means to be a doula, and all engines are a go. Ready for the next step? You got this!!
Sincerely,
Dearest Doula
P.S.
Here are some awesome links packed with more information on the specific subsets of doula care that exist. Check them out!!
http://www.fullspectrumdoulas.org
http://www.stillbirthday.com/2011/07/26/how-to-be-a-miscarriage-doula/
http://www.doulasforsurrogacy.com
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